ME, ME, ME

Question: do you feel you get enough Alicia time? enough adult time? enough couple time?

Answer:

Hmm... oh my. I don't think I regularly get enough of any of the above. But, I think I take the blame for that for the most part.

1. Alicia Time: I do not get a lot of Alicia time. For the most part, Alicia time is the time after I get off work (or on nights I don't work: when Ryan falls asleep on the couch) and the boys are asleep. Lately I've been working on my quilt, or I'll read, maybe browse online. There have been a few times I go to a late night movie, etc. Do I think that taking the time after everyone else has fallen asleep for myself counts as "Alicia Time"? Not really... but it gives me that extra bit of sanity.

Ryan wouldn't have a problem with me going out or doing something on my own, but during the time when I'm working a lot (which is not always the case), I like to spend as much time at home with Ryan and Jude.

Finally, I really try to avoid pumping at all costs. It's just not something I enjoy doing. I'd like to say that after 9 months I'm finally over the fear of drying up after one missed feeding, but truth is, I get all paranoid. So, I try to not be away from Jude for long periods of time.

2. Adult Time: I get very little adult time during the week/weekdays. I know very few mothers that stay home, so spend the whole day with Jude. There are days that I meet my brother and his fiance for lunch or we'll go shopping or just hang out. This is always a nice change of pace.

I recently started to frequently visit a Delaware Mom's page and I have been trying to put together a play group for people in my area. This was within the last couple of weeks and I have had a few people seem interested. (I'm sure I'll blog more if/when it happens and what we do). If it happens, it should be a nice break to the week.

Other than the time during the day, we have friends over regularly to hang out in the evenings and so, to some degree... I'm getting enough adult time. but, really, Jude is pretty much always there. Whether he's hanging out with us, or asleep upstairs.

3. Couple Time: We really do not get enough couple time at all. Usually when faced with the decision to either go out alone and get a baby sitter or bring Jude with us, I/we chose to bring Jude with us. We frequently make the decision to do something at the last minute, so I'd feel bad calling someone the day of. Plus, there are a lot of things I want Jude to experience. That's not to say every time we go out for dinner, I want Jude there, but it does mean I want him there for the things we don't do regularly.

Just recently we went out for a date night and it was very nice though. It really will be nice to do more and more as Jude becomes more independent and as I stop freaking out about my boobs. I'm pretty sure his Uncle Bryan is looking forward to sleep overs!