Part 2: Pregnancy Sex

I feel like when a woman (and a man) decide it's officially time for the baby maker to go into business, there are so many things that you just are not told. In addition, you just don't know to ask the question, so you're left to figure things out as you go along.

For example, I was unaware of heartburn being a big deal in pregnancy - and boy was it for me. Instead you hear the normal list of 'side effects' like frequent urination, the crazy cravings and more that I really didn't experience much of at all! In addition, I never even considered the side effects pregnancy would have on your love life. But really, as animals, it seems normal that nature would have women uninterested. During ovulation, hormone levels are at the right mix where you typically are most interested in sex, if you're not ovulating... then what's keeping you going?

In addition there's the morning sickness. I was one of those unfortunate women who experience a long dose of morning sickness. I remember getting sick clear through our cruise at the end of November, into December (I found out I was pregnant in August and was due in late April, that's about 4 months of morning sickness! Almost half my pregnancy!). the morning sickness really helped keep me uninterested in sex. I wasn't feeling 100%, I was throwing up constantly and so I just felt unattractive. No matter how much I was loving my pregnant body, I just couldn't see anyone be interested in a constantly vomiting woman. I looked forward to the end of the MS and hoped that it would reignite our honeymoon flame.

Unfortunately, it did not. Sex during pregnancy was very infrequent, very robotic and very... bad. I always hoped foreplay would stay foreplay and that it'd get over quick. I was just so uninterested. At first, Ryan was into trying sex during pregnancy, but once the belly started to arrive, thing got weird for him too. Quite literally, there was something between us and so he too opted for other methods of enjoyment. I can honestly say that I believe it was not uncommon to go a month without sex while I was pregnant - which in my opinion is just... SAD.

I had this constant feeling that I was a terrible wife and that any other man would have kicked me to the curb, but after discussing it, I found that Ryan was equally uninterested. I looked forward to having my son and moving on and back into a better love life.

When I would hear about other women who couldn't get enough sex while they were pregnant I was astonished! Those women ARE out there and if you're one of them, KUDOS to you!

Once late April rolled into early May and my son arrived, I thought "6 weeks from now, things will be going good!"

Stay tuned for: "Postpartum Sex (or lack of)"